Action is of course required to get you anywhere, but when is action fear based (ultimately hindering your progress) and when is action beneficial?
It’s always tough to know when to take action towards a goal and when to sit back and allow the natural flow of things to take its course and bring you to your goal; or more often, to take you on another path that you hadn’t expected but it turns out to be better than the goal that you had initially desired! Action is of course required to get you anywhere, but when is action fear based (ultimately hindering your progress) and when is action beneficial?
Firstly, if there is attachment to the end result i.e. if you feel that your world will fall apart if your goal doesn’t transpire, then you have an attachment to the outcome. Detachment is when we desire the goal but know that if it doesn’t happen that it wasn’t meant to be and that something better is coming our way. We desire the object or goal in the same way but feel differently about the potential outcome.
Secondly, if our actions towards a particular goal are constantly coming up against barriers and obstacles then we know that our steps are in the wrong direction. We constantly seem to be striving to get to our goal but make very little progress despite our efforts. When we are in the flow, very small actions or steps can bring about huge change and we progress very rapidly towards our goal.
So, how can we be in the flow and what if we’re not but want the goal to come about anyway? It’s important to ask yourself “is this goal for my highest benefit” and if not why do I want to achieve it. Quite often if the goal is not for your highest benefit, then it may be ego based, for example: I want to be skinny (because I think others will find me more attractive). If you’re unsure as to why you want to achieve your goal, sit for a few minutes and contemplate your goal from a heart perspective i.e. letting go of head based, rational thinking. If you’re still unsure, ask others close to you for their opinion and ask them for the reasoning behind their thinking, it might help to clarify your mind.
Once your goal is clear and you are confident that it is for your highest benefit, ask the following question: “what is the easiest path towards achieving my goal and who can help me to get there”? Don’t worry, you don’t need to have the answer to this question, you just need to put it out there and know that the circumstances and people required to achieve it will come about. That’s not to say that no action is required on your part. You may need to up- skill to achieve your goal. Someone may mention to you about a course that is coming up that is perfect for learning what you want to do, or you may read about the course in a magazine or even come across it from a flyer that comes through your door!
However, we do need to be open to receiving messages and help from others. Quite often, we will struggle and feel as if things are not coming together, when what is really happening is that we are ignoring the messages and the people that are there to help us because we are closed off. Many of us do this subconsciously to protect ourselves from failure. However, there is no such thing as failing as each time we try something new, no matter the outcome, we learn from it and we evolve.
- Write a list of goals and desire
- Review your list and make sure that all your goals are for your highest benefit
- Pick one goal from your list that is your top priority
- Ask yourself ”what is the easiest path towards achieving my goal and who can help me to get there”
- Be open to help from others, signs and messages that will help you to achieve your goal Don’t panic if you feel that things don’t seem to happen straight away.
- Be patient and know that the right set of circumstances will come about.
- Enjoy the process
Sandra runs regular workshops to Define and Manifest your Goals, for more information and upcoming course dates read on.